社交，营建关系网：社交就是要营造一种长期、互惠的付出/收获的关系，且重点在于"付出".试着回答这些开放式问题，你马上就会遇到很多人，他们将非常积极地看待你，或者在听说任何空缺职位的时候都会想到你：1）你是如何进入某一行的？2）就现在你做的事情而言，你最喜欢的地方是？3）你的公司与竞争对手的区别在哪里？4）这些年来，你的职业生涯发生了哪些显着的变化？5）你这行有什么趋势？你可以问问他们这些问题，看看会得到什么类型的答案。我向你保证，询问这些问题中的任何2个，你甚至不用问到第3个。它们的作用超级强大。要记住接下来你要做的事情：倾听！

    Good listeners are few and far between and they will be remembered.

    好的倾听者是不常遇到的，他们将会被记住。

    Join a job search support group or power group. Find other people that are in the same situation you are in, and meet once a week to support one another and trade leads and tips, and help to troubleshoot what may not be going well. But make sure it's a positive group. I've seen an emergence of these groups lately … so check your local paper. In my neighborhood in Staten Island, New York, St. Clare's Church has an Employment Group that meets every Tuesday from 7 – 9 pm. If you can't find a local group, think of creating one yourself, or join a virtual group on LinkedIn.com. There are at least two dozen groups that share info virtually.

    加入求职者支援团体：寻找和你有类似状况的人，一星期聚会一次，互相打气，交换机会信息和秘诀，相互排忧解难。但是，要确保你加入的是一个积极的团体。最近，我已经看到了这种团体的出现……因此，搜索你当地的报纸吧。在我所在的纽约史泰登岛上，圣？克莱尔教堂有个就业团体，每周二下午7点到9点聚会。如果你不能找到一个本地的团体，那就考虑自己建立一个，或在LinkedIn.com网站上加入一个虚拟团体。事实上，那里至少有20多个团体在分享信息。

    Attitude is everything! If it's not right, you cannot possibly conduct a proactive and effective job search. Do what you need to do to get it right. Sometimes, people need to get the negative thoughts out … speak them to a good friend, write them down on a piece of paper, and be done with it. Life is short! Get your attitude right and get that job!!

    态度决定一切！如果不是这样地话，你就不可能进行积极、有效地求职工作。做你需要做的事情并把它做好。有时候，人们需要避开消极的思想……把那些消极的思想向好朋友倾诉，写在纸上，然后与之拜拜。人生苦短，矫正态度去工作吧！