Step 6: Eye contact（眼神交流）

This is the best way to tell if someone finds you physically attractive. Begin by glancing up at him/her, catching their eye and holding it for a second or two. Then look away. Thirty seconds or so later, look up again, if he or she looks back again, this is a sign that they are interested. You may wish to repeat this move before you speak up as it is easy to misread these signals. If they don't look back at you the second time the chances are they're not interested, and you proceed at your peril.

TOP TIP- do not stare. It may make the other person feel nervous, confused or just plain scared.

Step 7: Smile （微笑）

When you catch their eye for the second time, you might feel that a smile is appropriate; it'll make you seem friendly and approachable. If they smile back, it's likely that you're on to a winner. However, too much smiling can look odd, so be careful not to overdo it.

Step 8: Body language（使用好肢体语言）

Body language is a great give-away for how someone feels about you. After you've caught their eye and they have smiled, check out their body language. If they've angled themselves towards you this is a good sign.

Make sure your own body language is positive. Don't cross your arms, your legs, or hunch your shoulders; these are negative signals. Instead, angle your body toward them. You can also employ the technique of 'mirroring' where you subtly copy their body movements. If they shift positions in their seat, make a similar shift a few seconds later. If they brush their hair away from their face, do the same shortly afterwards. Done well, this can have the effect of making them feel in tune with you

Step 9: Speaking up（发起对话）

Now it's time to start a conversation. Most people don't have the nerve for this, but you must seize the day! You're on a timescale - they might have to get off at the next stop, so it's best to act quickly. Reassure yourself that you've got nothing to lose; if you are knocked back you won't see them, or anyone else in the carriage again.

Try and ask a question that requires more than a 'yes' or 'no' answer. Don't ask "does this train stop at Victoria?" as they can simply say "yes", and end the conversation. Instead, ask an "open question" like "how do you get to Victoria?" as they will have to reply with a more detailed answer which will help you get a conversation going.

However, do expect them to look surprised that you've spoken up, and be prepared to repeat the question if they are startled. If they're genuinely interested in you they will be happy to start chatting. You'll be able to tell if they are not interested. If it is going badly, and you feel embarrassed, just get off at the next stop!liuxuepaper.com